Master the Happiness Factor and the World is Yours
Happiness is a State of Mind, well that’s the saying anyway. What we need to understand is that we often have to fight off efforts by what my friend Jerry Clark calls “Murphy’s Committee.” You know – the forces of negativity, self doubt, etc. that gang up on us and try to keep us from achieving our dreams.
Now, as I am sure Jerry will agree, we can actually will our minds into a state of happiness any time we choose – regardless of our situation. This is because happiness is a fleeting feeling, one not sustained indefinitely. It’s brought on by sensations of pleasure, like when we reach a goal or achieve an objective.
But why is it that happiness, the feeling of it anyway, is always a passing emotion? Wouldn’t it be great if there were a single function, activity, or “factor” that we could put into place to summon happiness at will?
Good news. There is. In fact, it’s called the Happiness Factor.
The Happiness Factor Explained
So what is the Happiness Factor anyway? Well, the answer is simpler than you might think! See… the happiness factor is YOU!
Many of us go through life believing that the external things in the world are what makes us happy. Maybe it’s a new car, a new house, or an expensive trip that we feel will bring us happiness. But in the end, all of these things either grow old, become mundane, or end. The happiness they bring us fades away.
The one thing we always have plenty of and have total control over is the one thing we can use to summon happiness anytime we want it. It’s our thoughts. As a collective, thoughts are things - as Napoleon Hill so eloquently stated in Think and Grow Rich. What it seems we need to do is find a way to harness or master our thoughts so as to create a consistent stream of happiness.
OK, Kevin. That’s great and all. But how the heck am I supposed to maintain happy thoughts in the face of all the negativity that comes at me on a daily basis. Great question.
One thing we can do is turn off the news, tune out or create separation from as many negative inputs into our lives as possible. Once we do that, we should actively engage in creating happy thoughts so that they begin to “over-write” the negative ones that may be lingering in our minds.
Are you producing thoughts of being happy?
Being happy is all about internal communication. Simply by summoning thoughts from our past of happy times or envisioning things we hope for in our future to the degree we can taste, touch, feel, hear, and smell them we can increase our Happiness Factor.
Engaging in these activities will assist in programming your mind to believe that you deserve to be happy. The memories of that experience you have will start to create a long-term effect in your life.
Try this on for size…
These are some activities I have found to be very helpful in programming my mind with happy thoughts. Remember, happiness is an activity. Maybe some of these will prove useful for you as you increase your own Happiness Factor.
1. Be thankful and grateful for what you are and becoming.
3. Playing sports, if you do play sports play the sport for fun instead of competition.
4. Show feelings of love to the people in your life. Showing and receiving love produces happiness.
5. Being in sunlight put you in a mood of happiness.
6. Exercise will allow you to reduce stress but also allow you to have better thoughts.
7. Living in the present- paying attention and focus on what you are happy and excited about now. Doing this is one of the ways to experience true lasting happiness in your life.
Affirmations and the Happiness Factor
I made mention of affirmations. Affirmations are an awesome way to aid us in producing beliefs that direct our actions and lead us to the happiness we seek in our lives. However, rather than making statements, I’ve been taking a cue from my friend Ray Higdon. He wrote a great post on affirmations where he explains the power of asking positive questions.
Here are some examples of what he spends 3 to 5 minutes a day writing down as his personal affirmations. I’ve been doing the same. Give them a try yourself!
Happiness Affirmation Questions You May Want to Try:
- Why am I so rich?
- Why am I so happy?
- Why am I enough?
- Why am I good enough?
- Why do I have what it takes to succeed?
Now, you’re going to feel weird at first if you have never written or spoken affirmations before. They may not “feel” real to you. But I urge you to keep at them daily. Over time, they will start to evoke true feelings inside you. What’s really amazing is that your subconscious has no understanding of time. So yes. You may be speaking of happiness you hope to feel in the future, but your subconscious reads these thoughts and imprints them as being dominant thoughts of what “is” rather than what “will be.” Tell me that’s not cool!
Remember, practice makes improvement. So start to practice to be happier in your life.